How to Choose?
When something is right the answer is easy… The difficulty is in sifting through all of the things that are not right for you.
I have a couple of things to say about decision making and the 1st is go with your gut! This sounds easy in theory but proves a little more difficult in practice. The truth is that you don’t know until you know!! Read it again… You don’t know until you know. What I mean by that is that, if you are constantly questioning, trying to force something, trying to figure out which path is right then you probably haven’t come across the right person, place or thing. Decisions, big or small, when you come across the right answer you just know… you will feel it in your body.
So in times of worry or confusion the best answer is to wait or keep looking. The things that are supposed to be in your life will be found in some way or another. Now that doesn’t mean that you should not take action in your life because taking action is so huge but I’m saying not to force something into your life just for the sake of making a decision that you “think” you “need” to make. Don’t worry if you choose wrong the 1st time the universe will make sure you get the message/lesson… it will come at you again, again, and again, and again until you finally get it.
For example, my client was offered a free and beautiful place to stay in Italy for a week. He just needed money for the plane trip. Days later he found almost exactly the money needed to go but he started thinking his money would be better spent on something “practical” like bills or saving for a rainy day. Then he had someone working on something in his apt and the 1st words out of the guys mouth after he had been there sometime indicated that one needs to get out and explore the world. I feel like there was another synchronicity that happened in this situation but either way the universe was screaming at him to go to Italy :)
Decision making a lot of times come down to trust! Trusting yourself, the universe and really everyone else. I can tell I am not trusting myself when I start asking the advice of a ton of people about a decision I need to make. That usually is a sign that I need to take a step back and get grounded and that the right answer probably isn’t in front of me.
Below are some small action steps to consider:
- Get some movement in: Yoga, dance, walk or bike ride in nature
- Take 10 deep breaths with your hands on your belly. Notice and feel how your body moves when you inhale and exhale.
- Write down an example of a decision you made in the past and how it played out. How did you feel leading up to the decision? How did it turn out? What are you going to do differently next time you make a decision?
Trust * Breathe * Listen to Your Gut